Why do we feel alone?
I have recently posted something on my Instagram account and afterwards I thought it really resonated with this community, so I felt like sharing this with you. It is about belonging somewhere and that is exactly what this community is here for.
Here is the text:
You've probably felt alone or lonely some days, or probably many days that has happened in your life.
Maybe you have also done something you don't like so much to be part of a group. You've changed your clothing, your way of thinking, your behaviour...to belong somewhere.
Can't remember? What about when you were at school? I for sure did some things which I have only latter discovered they were not part of who I was.
But have you already asked yourself WHY do you do these things?
We are social beings (you have probably already heard that part) and our sense of cooperation comes from a very long time ago, probably when we were still another species called Homo erectus, research says.
We used to cooperate to one another to be able to survive, otherwise we would be eaten by a tiger and die if we were alone. With this sense of cooperation came the sense of BELONGING to a group.
And this sense of belong is still very much present in our species Homo sapiens. Even though we don't have to run from tigers anymore, belonging to a group gives us a sense of safety and protection.
Even the most introverted people feel the need to belong. They might prioritize deeper connections with fewer individuals, and yet being part of a group is also important to them.
During isolation that's were pandemic hit us the hardest. We have "lost" our groups, our friends, our colleagues, thus, our protection. This has contributed to the feeling of being unsafe, alone, and afraid.
So, my friend, I see you and you are NOT ALONE in this journey. So what can you do?
Even though online activities do not replace physical ones in many aspects, they DO contribute to a wider sense of belonging somewhere, of being heard and cared for.
So go and look for your tribe, for that group that makes YOU feel safe. You might argue this is not ideal, I understand. But will you keep waiting until "all that has ended"? What about doing something right now?