I heard 'Mummy trap' last week while listening to a video via YouTube. I realized that is why a lot of women give up on their career goals.
I remember being the only Female that applied for CCHUB/University of I Virgili PhD scholarship in 2018. At the end I was the only one that got to the interview stage amongst us.
I have taken a lot of risk like being pregnant for the first time and moving from IFDC Abuja Nigeria office to Lome, Togo office (a Francophone country).
Left my comfort zone to study for my MSc as a Mum and expectant Mum. I remember how stressful it was but I never gave up. I actually discovered my strengths which has been helpful since then.
The climax was realising that I took in the very month I started my PhD for my 3rd child who will clock 2 years in 3 weeks. I didn't feel trapped. I enjoyed the journey and it didn't affect my studies. Mother's if you can invest in stroller, Baby bouncer and washing machine. Cooking in bulk and storing in your freezer is a life saver. Sharing your itinerary with your spouse and working as a TEAM is the best. It saves you a lot of headaches.
Life is full of stages, I miss my youthful days but growth is inevitable. It is ok to take a career break if you want to nurture your kids yourself especially for those that live outside Nigeria. Please remember to get your game back...it is called ''returnship''.
Dear Women set goals for yourselves often (yearly, monthly, weekly, daily) keep smashing them. Please don't forget to surround yourself with winners, your inner circle must be great, keep abreast of current trends in your field and get a Mentor.